26-year-old girlfriend forbids boyfriend from accepting a job that'd double his income to $60K because she doesn't want him working on weekends: 'We have lived together for 8 years and she said we are done if I accept this job'

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Jul 22, 2025 4:00 PM EDT

It's extremely common for couples to break up due to one partner getting a new, life-altering job. If your boyfriend of three years gets a job across the country and he wants to move, but you don't, that's a highly valid reason to reconsider continuing the relationship. Sure, you could wait six months after he moved to get a new job and relocate, but you could also decide that your job and life in your city are more valuable to you than taking your relationship to the next level. A couple of years in, that's an important question to ask yourself, regardless of whether your partner is changing jobs, moving, or making any other significant life change. You can't let someone who you're not married to and don't have kids with hold you back in your professional pursuits. You shouldn't let your husband or wife hold you back professionally; otherwise, you may not be in a healthy marriage. 

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  • 01

    AITAH for taking a job that’s twice the amount I’ve ever made and would solve my financial problems?

    Got offered a job for $60k+ a year. Only problem is I'd have to work weekends. My gf works M-F and has weekends off. Her one requirement is that I also don't work weekends. It has made my
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  • The girlfriend in this story is holding her boyfriend back. Instead of encouraging him to accept a position that will double his income, she's forbidding him from taking the job, because if he does, she'll break up with him. He needs to take the job and end the relationship with her as soon as possible.

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    job search significantly more difficult and I said screw it and went to an interview anyways. They offered me the job and I want to take it but now she is freaking out.
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    I've been in a financial hole for years now and this job would help bring me out of it. I've been depr sed for years due to finances. This would be life changing for me.
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    We have lived together for 8 years and she said we are done if I accept this job. She'd rather have me make $40k a year for now if it means I get weekends off for us to spend together. This job also has full benefits which I have never had. I need health and dental, etc.
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    Would I be the a h le to accept the job? She keeps saying I'm being unreasonable and choosing money over her.
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    Edit: Okay after all these comments of her being the a_h_le I'm starting to feel bad now. She's always made more money than me and has supported me financially at times more than I'd like to admit. I'v
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    always been less financially stable than her and recently we bought a house because she didn't want to keep living in an apartment and to have nicer things in life.
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    It's became harder now that we live in a house, she pays most often the mortgage but I pay the Electric, water, internet, etc. Do all the cleaning, housework, yard, fixing up the house, etc. Now we are both struggling but I just need a better job to help out more. Obvi she doesn't want me having this job because the weekend thing and she's said I
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    could just find a different job that I can make more $$ working M-F, like going into a trade etc. The job I was offered was a Restaurant Manager for a popular franchise which suits me since I've managed restaurants in the past. We are 26f and 28m.
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    Bluebells7788 "I've been in a financial hole for years now and this job would help bring me out of it." ^^ You don't have the luxury of passing up this job.
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    HerelGoAgain_1x10 Exactly... What girlfriend doesn't want their boyfriend to be financially sound?
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    axels_mom A selfish one. Do what is best for you. If she truly loved you, she would understand the benefits in the long run. Making more money and getting you out of your financial problems is the top priority.
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    Hot_Suspect3110 It's not just about the money, it's about finally getting some stability and peace of mind. If she really cared, she'd see it's a big step forward, even if weekends have to shift for a bit.
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    Environmental_Art591 One who likes the current status quo and likes being in control. OPs edit about living together like this for 8yrs makes me think he might be wearing Rose coloured glasses in this relationship.
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    I'm sorry OP but I couldn't be with someone who would choose demands over flexibility and compromise, financial stress over financial security all for their own selfish demands. What if you dont take this job, and she leaves anyway for some other reason, then you would be screwed.
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    Take the job, and find a way to make sure your relationship doesn't suffer (designated date nights, dont leave your chores undone, maintain intimacy etc), prove her wrong, i find it a bit worrying that she demands you free for her attention on the weekends, please tell me you also get to do things without her too.
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    readthethings13579 Agreed. This is a situation where OP needs to put on his own oxygen mask before helping anybody else with theirs. I had a job where I had to work a lot of evenings and weekends early in my career, and you know what? My friends and family were totally okay
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    with it because it was what I needed to do to earn enough money to support myself and get experience for my resume so I could qualify for better things in the future. It meant we had to be a little more creative about how to spend time together, but we made it work because that was what we needed to do.
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    OP, someone who loves you and wants what's best for you would want you to take this job. HI, I don't even know you and I want you to take this job. Complete strangers on the internet want you to have financial stability and access to benefits. Take that into account when you decide whether your girlfriend really wants you to have what you need.
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    tictactoss NTA. Partners are there to lift you up, not hold you down...she *should* be delighted for you. After 8 years if her reaction to something this life changing in the most positive way is "I'll break up with you"...then let her. Or better yet, do it for her.
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    Cocoslo This this this. Listen, my husband and I had opposing schedules for years, it s_ks. But beyond work being mandatory for most of us, do you really want to be with someone that isn't ecstatic that life might be getting better for you? Your wins should be her wins.
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    WineChick23 NTA. Why does SHE get to put requirements on YOUR job. If she doesn't want to be with you over this, next time it will just be something equally ridiculous. I'd be done with her over that ultimatum anyway.
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    Wogenar2 Yeah doubling your income is basically never a bad idea.
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